Article: Daily Mail

Learning my former husband had a prior wife he hadn’t bothered to mention, is one of my complicated marriage stories. Decades had passed but she tracked me down and wanted to talk.

What did she want? Why did she want to speak to me? And did I have an obligation to engage in our shared husband story?

I called her. And yes, that was complicated too.

The bottom line, she was looking for closure. Decades after their brief relationship ended, she still didn’t know why. So I told her what I knew, what I believed true of his self-identity, and how I was working through the emotional wreckage of our marriage. I thought I was giving her a gift, but the gift was actually one I gave myself. Grace.

That should have been the end of my series of traumas, but just a few months after that call with the secret wife, I received another.

“Alex…Found dead…drug paraphernalia.”

My youngest son was tell me my oldest son was dead.

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